May 26 2009

Self?Esteem Among Adults and Children

Category: Self EsteemAnders Eriksson @ 6:31 am

Little do people know about how parents have an effect on their kids, but studies have revealed that there is a strong correlation on self ?esteem among adults and children. An adult’s outlook often has similar characteristics as it has with their children, especially on how they value their self worth, since parents with low esteem are more likely to encourage their children to give importance or value themselves highly as well.

Such problems could be devastating to children since they could grow up to be timid or shy, reclusive or less sociable.

This could even result to children growing up less sociable and detached from society, since confidence ?building measures have not been introduced properly during the younger years that could affect relationships, careers and even the drive for success.

Adults should therefore be conscious about things that they manifest to children, since role-play is key to the growing up years of children, what they see in adults, they see in themselves. Self?esteem is important in children as it is important among adults, since it is helpful in helping them make sound decisions and fair judgment in the face of peer pressure, in the same way that adults deal with coping mechanisms in the face of adversity.

Self?esteem also makes children proud about being themselves and on things that they excel in, be it a skill or talent.

It’s what makes children gain acceptance among friends, compared to reclusive ones who shun off company and friends. Just like in adulthood, self?esteem is responsible for bringing about respect in an individual, so is the same with children.

It’s really a good idea to probe a little deeper into the subject of Self Esteem. What you learn may give you the confidence you need to venture into new areas.

The need or consciousness for self?esteem occurs the moment an individual develops rational thought and conscious processes, which is true among babies who still cannot determine or differentiate good from bad and are still not capable of rational thought.

Self?esteem becomes a need for people, the moment they feel the ups and downs of day to day situations and circumstances, especially in coping with those they feel as adversities of life in the face of social pressure or individual inner battles.

The older children get, they are tasked with the bigger responsibility of developing their own self ?esteem, which can be governed or influenced by the way perceive it from role examples ? especially in their own parents.

One of the best manifestations of self-esteem among children is a sense of humor, since it bespeaks of confidence and self- acceptance that is gauged by how they carry themselves in public or among a number of peers in a social group.

The sense of self-esteem among children is what helps them motivate to achieve more, not only because they crave for more attention or acceptance, but also they themselves would want to satisfy their inner conscience and feel good about themselves. A good self?esteem makes kids see things in a positive manner, makes them want to do more and always aspire to do the right things, that is, with the proper guidance and examples that is set before them.

As parents, always try to make it a point to always make it a point for their children to develop good self?esteem, because it is what shapes them for the future.

So by now, you see the importance of self- esteem among adults and children.

Now that wasn’t hard at all, was it? And you’ve earned a wealth of knowledge, just from taking some time to study an expert’s word on Self Esteem.

About the Author
By Anders Eriksson, who just launched this List Building Guide, on how to build a 1000 member list in a month


Apr 09 2009

How to Build Self Esteem

Category: Self EsteemAnders Eriksson @ 1:59 am

Self esteem is something we all have. It can be developed and improved even further as we grow older so there is the chance that we can become better people. But how do we do that? Well by following some simple steps.

The first step is to accept yourself for who you are. We are only human and there are limitations to what we can do. While there are some limitations that can be changed, there are some that can’t. For instance, if you don’t do well in math, you can get help so you can have a better grade in the future. On the other hand, if you want to buy a car and you don’t have the funds right now, well you just have to accept the fact that at this moment, this is not possible.

Aside from knowing your limitations, you have to understand that people have their own limitations as well and you have to accept them for who they are.

The second step is to understand that you have self worth. You are important to your family, to your friends and to society. You may not be running a country or a business but your contribution as an employee, as a breadwinner to the family and a listener when your friends need someone to talk to has value.

If you know your limits and you have a certain purpose in life, it is time to set realistic goals. When you plan what you want to do, make sure that this can be done over a period of time and not overnight. For instance, if you want to lose weight, you have to do this gradually and once you achieve it after several months, you will be happy with what you have achieved.

Now that we’ve covered those aspects of Self Esteem, let’s turn to some of the other factors that need to be considered.

Each one of us has experienced something different in our lives. This depends on the people we meet and the challenges that we have encountered. With that, you can take mistakes made as lessons for the future and achievements as things that could push you further. Since you don’t want to sit on your laurels, set your own standards and live by them.

The last thing you have to do to build up your self-esteem is simply to learn to love yourself. If you want to do something, go ahead and try it even if there are some people who may discourage you from doing it.

If you did a great job, give yourself a pat on the back and reward yourself because how you see yourself will be seen by other people so if you learn to value who you are, it will be easier for you to be appreciative of others.

We all have self-esteem and we just have to maintain it or try to make it even better. If you need help in building it, try seeing a specialist or buying a recording and then play it at home. Remember that these things are just tools and in the end, what is important is how you see yourself. It is also your life and you are the one who sets the direction.

Not your friends, family or loved ones but it wouldn’t hurt to consult them from time to time because these people also care about you.

About the Author
By Anders Eriksson (Click on the link to learn more about me)


Apr 05 2009

10 Ways to Improving Low Self Esteem

Category: Self EsteemAnders Eriksson @ 7:55 pm

Everyone strives to find ways to improve their self esteem. Whether you’re doing this subconsciously or physically it doesn’t really matter. But this creates a challenge especially since you’re not particular on what you would like to improve on. Chances are you’re improving low self esteem without even thinking about it.

Not many are familiar with the ways of improving their self esteem and here are ten helpful guides you can easily follow.

? Stock up on your self esteem by creating a check list of things you want to improve on. Start by how you communicate with others. Accomplish one change at a time and put check on it once you’re done and move on to what’s next on the list.

? Feel good about yourself starting now and show that extra confidence to everyone wherever and whenever you find yourself in. Remember it’s the journey that matters most than the destination.

? Create a goal for yourself by knowing what you want. Find out how the people around you or the ones you meet can help you get closer to your goals. This will help you determine how you can approach each person. Do this always and the results are noticeable.

? Get driven and motivate yourself. Let everyone know how any of them can help you in your goals. People who are very driven end up being successful in their careers.

I trust that what you’ve read so far has been informative. The following section should go a long way toward clearing up any uncertainty that may remain.

? Develop the mindset that every person you meet is important. It’s surprising how effective this is.

? Two things: give a good handshake and look a person in the eye when speaking to them. Make sure your handshake is firm and not too hard. Always try to look for a good character trait you find attractive in every person you meet.

? Learn to listen. Give notice to what others are saying. Try to remember a person’s name and if you forget ask their name after exchanging a couple of sentences.

? Show a person that you are responding to them by nodding or calling out their name. Make use of your listening abilities. Remember, people can read through your body language.

? Remind yourself that everything is not all about you by paying attention to others around you. Learn to accept news whether it is good or bad. Empathize with other people’s situation and genuinely show that you care.

? Do not interrupt a person while speaking whether you’re doing this mentally or verbally. In short, give a person your full attention when they are speaking because its’ rude if you don’t.

Now that you know how to improve yourself esteem, try to apply this in your everyday interactions with others. The more of these tips you apply everyday the brighter your aura gets and you charisma gets a good boost. But if you want have a more charismatic personality it’s going to take more than these ten tips to achieve that.

Having a very positive aura definitely helps in improving low self esteem. Not only does this benefit you but it also benefits everyone and everything around you. Your positivity affects your interactions with your family, your outlook on your career and it can make people of the opposite sex find you more attractive and likable.

I hope that reading the above information was both enjoyable and educational for you. Your learning process should be ongoing–the more you understand about any subject, the more you will be able to share with others.

About the Author
By Anders Eriksson (Click on the link to learn more about me)


Apr 04 2009

Five Strategies to Boost Your Self-Esteem

Category: Self EsteemAnders Eriksson @ 4:58 pm

Do you feel like you are not your old self? This happens even to the best of us but there is a way to get it back. Here are 5 strategies that have been tested and proven to boost your self-esteem.

The first strategy is to change your body language. How we sit and how we move shows a lot about who we are. This is because when people look at you, they observe not only your verbal signs but also those that are nonverbal. The best way to show people that you have high esteem is sitting up or standing straight, keeping your upper body relaxed, smiling, keeping your chin up and breathing normally.

The second strategy involves recalling past victories. You probably experienced a few challenges as you were growing up but you are able to overcome them. Although the obstacles you may be facing right now are a little different, it doesn’t change the fact that you can also succeed like you did before so don’t sell yourself short and use that as a moral booster.

Now that you have recalled past victories, you can picture yourself achieving others in the future. This third strategy is known as visualization.

Here, you try to imagine what you want to achieve and how you will do it. One way to do that is to play some relaxing music in the background and then picture everything in your head from start to finish.

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Studies have shown this increases the chances of you succeeding in something because it prepares you mentally for what should happen. You just have to do it when the time comes by performing in real time what you have seen in your head.

The fourth strategy is to think positive. If think that you can do it, chances are you will be able to succeed. To do that, you have to come up with a positive phrase and say this to yourself over and over again. When you think of the phrase, remember that it can something simple such as ?I can do it.?

The fifth strategy is similar to the fourth but aside from saying you can do it, you have to plan what you are going to do first and then take the proper action. The first you have to do is ask yourself what you want to do. Once you know that, you can do some research to see how this can be achieved. When everything has been prepared, all you have to do is execute than plan and await the results.

As you can see, the five strategies to boost your self-esteem are easy. If you practice it often, it won’t be long that this becomes second nature. But aside from believing in yourself, don’t forget you have to put in some time and effort to practice what you are going to do.

You have to remember that no one won a gold medal in the Olympics without practicing or achieved a distinguished award in school without studying so that means you have to put in some time into it.

Self-esteem is something we all have. It developed as we grew up which is why it is higher in some and lower in others. If you want to do more in life, naturally you have to improve yours by trying one of the 5 strategies.

About the Author
By Anders Eriksson (Click on the link to learn more about me)


Mar 31 2009

How to Rebuild Your Self Esteem After a Tragic Event

Category: Self EsteemAnders Eriksson @ 11:17 am

We lose a part of ourselves when something tragic happens. This could be the loss of a loved one, a painful divorce or losing your job. You may feel that there is no point in living but if you are able to rebuild your self-esteem, you can continue living your life.

After a period of time, you start rebuilding your self esteem by first learning to let go. Along the way, the event which struck you the most will haunt you and it is okay to cry and feel angry. Once you have released this out of your system, it is time to open your eyes and accept the fact that it has happened.

When you are ready, try doing things that make you feel good. Perhaps get a new haircut, go on a long vacation, take a new class or start a business. You need a new environment so reach out to the world. By doing this on your own or with friends, you will be able to begin enjoying life again instead of imprisoning yourself in your own home.

If what happened was a messy divorce, just think that you now have all the time in the world to do things that your spouse did not allow you to do before. If someone close died, remember them for who they are and cherish whoever is still living. Should you lose your job like many are experiencing right now, look for work or try out classes because there are certain fields that are not affected that much by the financial crisis.

In order to achieve that, you must remember that you have something locked inside which is very powerful and that is the belief in yourself. Yes you made some mistakes but if you learn to forgive yourself, you will soon have a change in attitude and a different outlook in life.

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People who have known you in the past will surely take notice of it and some who were not close to you before will be more than willing to approach and want to know more about you.

But this will not work until you are able to understand what you feel hurt and what you need to be happy again. One of the things that enrich self-esteem is the fact that you learn to love yourself so you have to find it because this is what will guide you to a goal and at least achievement.

There is a saying that goes, ? what hurts you will only make you stronger? and this statement is true because although one chapter in your life has closed, the next one is about to open. Sometimes we need to fall down real hard before we can get up ahead but this too shall pass.

You may be bruised or see a scar but you are still living and breathing so stop wasting your time sulking when there is so much to do in life. What happened yesterday is over and a new day is here. This is a chance for you to live again so seize the day!

Remember, you never lost your self-esteem. It was there the whole time and you just need to stand up, dust off the dirt and get the feeling again.



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